Edwin Ogenio about Glamorous Marriage

Edwin Ogenio: «There is a saying, that Hollywood stands for the breaking of marriages, however it is the divorce rate among Christians that is on an all time high. Unfortunately it also includes pastors and ministers.” The reason for all of this, Edwin Ogenio believes, is not only a broken society, which produces broken relationships, but also a lack of knowledge concerning the real meaning of marriage and what it stands for.
“My people are being destroyed for lack of knowledge.”
Hosea 6:4 NKJV

Edwin Ogenio reminds: “God Himself said that He hates divorce. (See Mal 2:16) “. Based on his own personal experience and the experience in counseling many couples over the years, Edwin Ogenio wants to give you a perspective tour on this issue.

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him: male and female He created them.” Gen 1:27 NKJV
Edwin Ogenio explains: “In other words the union of a man and a woman is a reflection of God Himself. To be more specific, a Christian marriage is a reflection of Jesus Christ and the church. It is therefore clear that God’s intention from the very beginning was that we would be in a heterosexual, monogamous marriage.”Edwin Ogenio: “You can read explanation in Matt 19:5-6 NLT: This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separates them, for God has joined them together.”
Let Edwin Ogenio discusses some of the wrong reasons or motives why people get married:

1. Loneliness or solitude - having a great need to be with somebody or otherwise not feeling complete.
2. Out of guilt, pity or feeling sorry for. You are not at peace, but feel obligated into committing, even fearing that you might miss God’s will, since the partner or family continuously confirm that the relationship is meant to be or ordained by God.
3. Because of age - getting older and desperate to have your own family.
4. Pressure from the family - they look forward to having grand children.
5. Impulsive love - being overly in love and consumed or obsessed with the other person.
6. Single parent with Children - in need of a mom or dad. The man or woman becomes a replacement for a missing parent.
7. For the sake of looking good and successful, even in ministry because of an inferiority complex and a low self-esteem.

Edwin Ogenio says: “The desire to be loved, to be ’special’ to someone is inherent to the human condition. God who created us knows exactly how to fulfill that need. Having this knowledge will make us understand that marriage won’t solve loneliness, one’s deepest emotional needs, unhealthy sexual desires or life’s difficulties. Marriage itself does not hold people together, but godly commitment does. “Many couples go into their marriage without a proper preparation and understanding. There are the ingredients, Edwin Ogenio believes, that are needed for a successful marriage such as emotional stability, maturity and flexibility. Functioning well together is difficult when one of the partners is for instance easily rejected, compares self to others, holds on to offenses, is overly insecure, suffers from bi-polar disorder, has a borderline personality, is co-dependant, is being controlled by parents, has anger issues, is dominating/controlling or has a great need for constant affirmation. These issues require the appropriate counseling.

Note by Edwin Ogenio: The focus of those who are offended is to guard their rights and personal relationships carefully. Their energy is consumed with making sure no future injuries will occur. If we don’t risk being hurt we cannot give unconditional love. Unconditional love gives others the right to hurt us. True love never seeks its’ own, but offended people become more and more self-seeking and self-contained.

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